WELCOME MESSAGE

The  "12steps"  and "12steps_Alanon" chat room is a Twelve Step, and Tradition oriented fellowships meeting room for Alcoholics and Narcotics Anonymous members and thier family and friends.  We hold nightly meetings that are geared to helping our brothers and sisters in these programs at 9 pm eastern time, and Friday Nights at 8 pm for family members.   We do not speak for all of AA or NA.  We try to share our experiences here in an effort to guide and show how the program has changed our lives as individuals in the program.  May you find peace and serienty here.
 

Although our room is open 24 hrs / 7 days a week,  we can not promise someone will be here every hour of the day. If you enter our room and nobody else is here  please email our staff and let us know the time you came in.  Remember we hold nightly mettings for A.A. & N.A. members here at 9 pm and  Friday Nights Closed Meetings starting at 8 pm for alanon/narcanon, you are more than welcome to come join us.

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What is the #12steps Chat room?
We offer Friendly Support EVERY DAY.  Our staff  and members understand what it is like to live with a drinking or drugs problem.  We also understand the need for friendship and love.  We offer that here on a daily basis for our visitors.  We also offer support for the family as well.

Our members are not doctors, or counselors.  WE are just like you, so we know first hand how you feel, and we are here to help you help the family member find a new life, free from the addictions that they may have.  If they are harming you, or your love ones, please seek out legal help now. Call your local Police, and explain to them what's going on in your home, and seek the professional help you may need to protrect yourself and your love ones.

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REMAINING ANONYMOUS
The Importance of Anonymity to our visitors is highly respected here in our chatroom.
First, we know from experience that many might hesitate to turn to A.A. or other groups for help. This is especially true if they thought their problem might be discussed publicly, even inadvertently, by others.  What's said in our room stays with in the room.

Newcomers are able to seek help  with the assurance that their identities will not be disclosed to anyone outside the room.  Many find solace in the anonymity and convenience with which IRC provides.  Nonetheless, we consider it important that everyone seek out a local support group, and a local sponsor.  To that end we have sought to provide you with links to many diverse groups here to find help with.

Our  members have the means to talk to you privately.  If you would like to discuss something, with them one on one please ask them in the  room first.

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ROOM POLICY AND DECORUM

Please understand the room is topic specific.  They focus is on AA and NA only in an effort to aid and comfort our visitors and members when they need to share with others in the same program.  If you are in a different recovery program please do not discuss your situation here.  We would ask that you find an an appropriate group  for that situation.   If you are struggling with a step we ask that you fist talk it over with your sponsor, and work on it with them directly.

We must remember we are addicts here and need to behave appropriately.  Often times we get family members who come seeking our help in dealing with those in the family that are abusing and using.  Please understand that not all of our chatters may think like you, or act like you.  As a result, conflicts may arise from a comment or an action taken.   In order to keep our room focused we would ask that you keep talk geared towards recovery, family and current issues as they center around your recovery program.  There should be no reason why anyone should need to private message a person from the room if your conversation is recovery focused.

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DURRING A MEETING:
JOINING THE MEETINGS:
When Joining the meeting, please come in and observe there may be a conversation (someone typing) at the time you join us.   We would ask that you refrain from typing upon entry such as Hi or other comments as this can be very distracting for those who are sharing and or new to the room, and IRC.
 

SHARING YOUR THOUGHTS:
If you wish to share with the group, please wait until the person who is currently sharing finishes thier train of thought. Then type "!SHARE".  The person hosting the meeting will then call upon the next person to share by name.  When you're finished, please type "END" this will alert all that you have finished your thoughts.  At that time, the host may call for comments from those present.  Once all the comments have been shared, the HOST will then give someone else a chance to share and or comment on whats been said.
 

When someone else is sharing, please show courtisy to them, by leting them finish. We would ask that you do not interrupt them. We will end the meeting with the Serenity Prayer. At that point, everyone may chat informally.  Thank you for your help in ensuring a successful meeting here on line.
 
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MEETING FORMAT

Generally speaking, meetings start with the use of a premade script this includes the following items listed below.  This script takes aprox 5 - 7 mins to run through and we ask that you not type durring the meeting start so newcomers may benifit from the message.

Opening Prayer
Topic Selection - group conscience
Review of the above policy  (!share , end, comment)
Preamble Message
Reading of the Alcoholics Anonymous Page 58
Reading of the 12 Steps

Round Table Shares Format
Comments on the individual Shares

Serienty Prayer
Closure and announcement of General Chat

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